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Questions & Answers About Therapy & Counselling

Here are the answers to some commonly-asked questions. If you don’t find the question or its answer that you’re looking for, please contact me and I will get back to you within 48 hours.

 

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Questions About Psychotherapy & Counselling

What’s the difference between counselling and psychotherapy?

The terms are sometimes used interchangeably. A common way to differentiate them is to say that ‘counselling’ is single-issue, short-term work, whereas ‘psychotherapy’ is longer and more in-depth. In this sense, a psychotherapist’s training takes many years because it requires an understanding of organic, developmental processes, and psychotherapy focuses on clients’ long-term relationship with themselves and others, working with the deeper layers of how a person is present and how that relates to the past, present and future.

Is it totally confidential?

Our work is private and confidential, and even the fact that you’re seeing me is confidential. However, I am legally obliged to break confidentiality if I consider you are in danger of causing serious harm to yourself or others, or in cases of terrorism. Also, like all psychotherapists, in order to be transparent about how I work and so as to maintain a healthy perspective, I am regularly ‘supervised’ by another psychotherapist: in that process, clients are not identified. Let me add, my work is covered by the Data Protection Act, and any notes I might keep will not have clients’ names as part of them.

Is it all about the past?

What we talk about depends on what you want to bring to the session.

Is it self-indulgent to have therapy?

When asked on his deathbed what was the most important lesson he’d learned during his life, the writer Aldous Huxley said, ‘To be kinder to myself’.  So I ask anyone, what’s actually wrong with ‘indulging the self’? Especially when going to therapy can also validly be seen as taking charge and taking responsibility for ourselves. Besides, if we find ways to make our life work better, those round us are quite likely to benefit too!

But doesn’t it encourage dependency?

Dependency is a crucial aspect of how we bond, how we relate to other humans. But there’s a balance between the drive for connection and the drive for independence, and that’s an area we often need to explore and where we can develop our own answers.

Will you give me advice?

Mostly, the answer is No. Advice is usually abundantly available from friends, family, media, the Church, the Government etc. When I refrain from advising, it is not because I am deliberately wishing to frustrate you, though you may feel it that way. Actually, it can feel liberating and affirming being encouraged to find your personal truth and forge your own unique path.

How will I know if it’s working?

Therapy is not always a comfortable process, so being unhappy or dissatisfied with one particular session, or a run of sessions, may not be an indicator that the process isn’t working.You may find yourself, at a deeply felt level, evaluating whether you are getting what you want or need. I support that, for example by having periodic review sessions.

Do I need to prepare for sessions?

Some clients give some thought to what they are going to say at their next session. But that’s not a requirement. It’s OK just to come and see what emerges. Some people do like to have ‘homework’, and we can talk about that.

Will I have to lie on a couch during sessions?

No. I don’t avoid eye contact with you.

How long will the therapy last for?

Some people get what they need in just a few sessions, whereas many people find it useful to work over a longer period of time. It is very individual, and is between the two of us to decide. You may stop whenever you want to, but we’ll keep it under review. I would class 6-12 sessions as brief or ‘time limited’ therapy. Anything over 6 months is what I would call ‘longer term’ work.

How does therapy end?

Usually by agreement between us, and with one or more finishing sessions to wrap things up.

With so many types of therapy, how do I choose between them?

Research shows that the two most important elements in the effectiveness of a course of therapy are (a) how motivated the client feels, and (b) to what extent the particular therapist and client ‘click’. The type of therapy is rather less important. In addition, most therapists now work across a range of methods and approaches.

What subject matter can I bring?

Anything! Human experience is extraordinarily varied, so the following isn’t an exhaustive list, but it may be helpful if I mention some topics that people have presented to me:-

  • Stress
  • Low self esteem
  • Loss & Mourning following the ending of something significant - relationships, career, your youth
  • Bereavement & Grief following the death of someone
  • Relationship struggles
  • Family conflicts
  • Addictions
  • Compulsive behaviour
  • Trauma
  • Abuse
  • Bullying
  • Professional, work and career issues
  • Excess anger, losing your temper
  • Obsessions
  • Phobias
  • Sexual difficulties
  • Sleep disorders
  • Eating disorders
  • Powerlessness
  • Lack of control
  • Anxiety
  • Panic
  • Lack of confidence
  • Feeling directionless or helpless
  • Depression
  • Frustration, stuckness, lack of satisfaction
  • Burnout
  • Ageing
  • Dealing with racism
  • Psychosomatic symptoms - ME, CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome), IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)
  • Behaviour change
  • Unresolved issues from the past
  • Boarding school recovery
  • LGBT issues
  • Lack of assertiveness
  • Loneliness, isolation
  • Major life events
  • Lack of optimism
  • Transitions, and managing change
  • Overwhelm, loss of boundary
  • Feeling ill at ease
  • Feeling disconnection, lack of meaning, invisibility or formlessness
Do you work with dreams?

A dream is a fascinating, alive, rich source of information, full of possibilities for change and evolution. It is the body speaking to us. In preference to interpreting the symbolic content of dreams, I tend to work with them in a formative way, with a particular focus on what is growing or trying to take shape.

Do you use CBT (Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy)?

Aaron T. Beck devised CBT in the 1960s, to help us identify irrational, unhealthy thoughts and refute them. Useless or frustrating and unproductive behaviours are addressed through techniques such as modelling, role play and reinforcement strategies. The underlying principle is that, for better or for worse, children learn by observing and imitating, and poor mental health is a function of having observed and imitated poor role models.
I generally find CBT methods work best with anxiety attacks. My style of therapy is quite behaviourist in any event. Thus, in other words, CBT is integrated into the range of tools and modalities I draw on to meet any particular person’s needs.

 

Questions About Booking Your Session

Where do the psychotherapy sessions take place?

I work face-to-face, by telephone or via Skype, and I have clients all over the world. Face-to-face sessions are available at my private practice counselling consulting room in Hammersmith, West London, and at other locations (such as your business premises) by arrangement.

How long is a session?

50 minutes. There might occasionally be a good reason for us to agree longer sessions or double sessions.

What time of day can I arrange to come?

Time slots are available from 7.30 am through to 9.00 pm Monday to Friday. Weekend sessions can be set up in appropriate circumstances.

How often will I need to come?

Therapy usually starts with one hour per week. At a later stage the frequency may change.

 

Questions About Fees

How much does a session cost per hour?

£120 per 50 minute session.

There is a 5% DISCOUNT for ADVANCE payment for a block of 4 sessions or a 10% DISCOUNT for ADVANCE payment for a block of 8 sessions.

All fees are inclusive of VAT.

How do I pay you?

Direct bank transfer, or cash or cheque. I don't have the facility to accept credit cards at present.

When do I pay you?

For the first session, please pay me in advance of the appointment.

After that, I will email you a monthly VAT invoice at the end of each month. The invoice is due for payment straightaway on receipt.

Can I pay for several sessions in advance?

I offer 5% discount on any pre-paid block of 4 booked sessions or a 10% discount on any pre-paid block of 8 booked sessions.

Is there a cancellation fee?

Unfortunately, due to the high volume of clients requiring therapy, I do have to charge in full for appointments missed or cancelled for any reason, unless you give me at least 72 hours prior notice.

 

Questions About Marcus

Have you been in therapy yourself?

Yes, I have found it a moving and profound experience which changed the quality of my life.

What is your experience in this field?

I have been working full time as a psychotherapist/counsellor since 2002. Before that, I was a solicitor. Please see About Marcus for more background.

How do I know if you’re the right therapist for me?

The best therapist is one that you feel a fair degree of trust and confidence in. I suggest to people to call me or, better still, set up an initial session. This is an opportunity to ask any questions you have and see if the chemistry feels right.

How is the psychotherapy profession regulated?

There is no statutory regulatory regime in the UK. Psychotherapists can voluntarily apply for registration with one of the major national bodies (such as the BACP, or UKCP) but this is not a legal requirement. I am registered with both of those, as well as being a member of two other professional associations (UKAHPP and PBAUK).

Do you have a complaints procedure?

All Codes of Ethics have Complaints Procedures as part of them. I am governed by three sets of Codes of Ethics: BACP, UKCP and UKAHPP.

 

What’s my next step?
If you wish to talk about what you are looking for and/or arrange a first session, please get in touch by telephone or email or use the contact form.

 

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Pesso Boyden Group with accredited practitioners Deborah Clarke and Marcus Gottlieb

Pesso Boyden Group with accredited PBSP practitioners Deborah Clarke and Marcus Gottlieb

Pesso Boyden Therapy (‘PBSP’) is a philosophical process for becoming whole.

It is a respectful, interactive group process that heals by embedding new memories in the brain and in the body

Most people consciously or unconsciously have memories – explicit or implicit – of 

1. deficits 

2. traumas 

3. having to take care of others when we were too young – e.g. protecting a sibling, providing the joy in the life of an unhappy parent, unconsciously becoming the ‘spouse’ of a widowed parent, or making the world right after hearing stories of injustice. 

When any of these three categories of memory appear in the client’s work, the client and therapist work together to externalise them, in order to illuminate the client’s ways of handling life and to facilitate change. The client is always in charge of this process – people and incidents from the client’s past will be symbolised in the here-and-now either by people in the group or by objects in the room, all chosen and placed by the client. 

The therapist then works with the client to facilitate an antidote to what happened in the past – a new memory which provides what the client needed at that particular time in their past, from a specific kinship figure. This new memory may be developed over several sessions in a number of steps. In the Pesso approach we don’t change our history; however, we do change our response to our history, leading to a new perspective. 

The way is opened to possibilities of greater pleasure, satisfaction, meaning, integration and connectedness.

 



Deborah has worked as a Performance Coach for over 16 years having trained with Coach U. Her background is in the arts as an actor, theatre director and artistic director. She has worked with a wide range of people from all walks of life. Having first encountered Pesso Boyden as a client, she felt inspired to do the training herself. Since graduating in 2013 she has been running Personal Development workshops using the Pesso Boyden system and is now accredited by the official PBSP U.K. organisation.

Notting Hill Therapist | Marcus Gottlieb Psychotherapist & Counsellor
Marcus Gottlieb is a highly experienced London-based psychotherapist with a particular interest in boarding school survivor syndrome. Having trained alongside Deborah directly under Al Pesso and his closest collaborator Lowijs van Perquin, he is steeped in the work of PBSP and a strong believer in the client’s genetic impulse towards health and expression of their unique potential and individual destiny. He became an accredited Pesso Boyden therapist in 2021.
An Introduction to the Pesso Boyden Method

 

An opportunity to learn about and observe the distinctive techniques of this respectful body-based psychotherapy.

Suitable for both psychologically interested professionals, people seeking personal development/CPD and for people not in the therapeutic professions seeking to address entrenched issues. For all those who are interested in living a larger life. A special price of £35 for the day includes lunch and refreshments. CPD certificates will be available.

PBSP (Pesso-Boyden System Psychomotor) is a powerful, deeply respectful, psychotherapeutic process that uses feedback, ritual, objects and role players in a unique manner to heal the traumas, wounds and losses that affect our personal map of the world.

Its central goal is the imaginative creation of an ‘ideal’ healthy past that a person’s brain processes so that they emerge feeling differently about themselves. As Albert Pesso said, ‘Humanity is responsible for the meaning that surrounds us. The task for each person is to create a meaningful life and then live it with existential courage and passion.’

As well as gaining new perspectives, clients often experience increased pleasure, satisfaction, meaning and connectedness following a PBSP session and find themselves psychologically freer to make the changes they wish for in their lives.
Date: Saturday 7 October 2017
Venue: Notting Hill, London W11
Time: 10.00 am – 4.30 pm
Cost: £35 (inc lunch & refreshments)

 

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Boarding School Survivor Syndrome Conference

BOARDING SCHOOL: Surviving the Syndrome
Broken Attachment and Childhood Trauma

University of Brighton

Saturday 9 September 2017
9.30 am to 5.00 pm

Conference for psychotherapists, counsellors, mental health workers, boarding school survivors and other interested people.

Conference overall aims are to:
§ Present key aspects of what has been published about the psychological and other effects of boarding.
§ Explore helpful therapeutic approaches for clients who are former boarders.
§ Consider current research and a possible agenda for future research
§ Enable networking amongst those interested in this important topic

Chair: Pam Howard, School of Applied Social Science, University of Brighton.

Speakers: Nick Duffell, Joy Schaverien, Alex Renton, Thurstine Basset, Anni Townend, Olya Khaleelee.

Group Discussion Facilitators: Marcus Gottlieb, Leslie Lund, Nicola Miller, Simon Partridge, Boarding Concern Directors.

For more details, contact Laura Williams:
southcoastevents@brighton.ac.uk

Pesso Boyden Workshop with Ana María Ruiz Sancho and Marcus Gottlieb

 

Pesso Boyden Therapy is a respectful and highly respected, body-based psychotherapy with distinctive techniques aimed at addressing entrenched issues. It is an interactive process that creates new body-based memories to heal emotional deficits of the past.

An exceptionally powerful personal development tool, it uses feedback, systematic procedures, objects and role players in a unique methodology, in order to repair the early traumas, wounds and losses that can powerfully influence the brain’s map of the world.

In shifting underlying perspectives, the way is opened to the possibility of greater pleasure, satisfaction, meaning and connectedness, and an enhanced freedom to effect longed-for changes.

It is expected there will be between 8 and 12 participants, with an absolute maximum of 15. The day will start with an explanation of Pesso Boyden and an experiential introduction, followed by 4 actual client sessions of an hour each.

Venue: Philadelphia Association, 4 Marty’s Yard, London NW3 1QW
Date: Saturday 3 June 2017
Time: 0930 to 1800
Cost: £75

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Ana María Ruiz Sancho is an experienced psychiatrist and a psychotherapist. She is also a specialist in group dynamics and an Institutional and Team Motivation Consultant.

Ana is the Founder and a Director of VocAcción, as well as being a qualified Pesso Boyden psychotherapist.


Notting Hill Therapist | Marcus Gottlieb Psychotherapist & Counsellor

Marcus Gottlieb works with relationships, sexuality, abuse and trauma, with a particular interest in boarding school survivor syndrome. Qualified in Pesso Boyden as well as other psychotherapies, he is also an Alexander Technique teacher.

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