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Do you doubt yourself? Are you self-critical? If so then therapy to build your self-worth can help

Low self-confidence, poor self-belief and feelings of inadequacy are painful, frustrating and debilitating experiences. Self-doubt saps your energy and can disrupt or block your efforts to achieve happiness and contentment. Therapy for low self-confidence reduces these frustrations, doubts and blocks, helping you to value yourself more fully.

Whether it’s in the area of relationships, love and friendship, or career and worldly success, self-worth and self-esteem issues can get in your way and, over the course of a lifetime, may feed into serious emotional problems like depression, anxiety, loneliness and addictions.

How does therapy for low self-confidence and self-esteem work?

When you start seeing a therapist about your low self-confidence and low self-esteem, and take time, in the safe space of therapy, to open these issues up, often it becomes clear that low self-confidence isn’t only something you ‘have’ but something you ‘do’. It is not so much that you ‘have’ low self-esteem or self-value, but that you are not esteeming or valuing yourself at the right level.

While this is being grasped, it begins to be possible to explore, understand and make plans for effective change.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt, politician and author

In therapy we explore how your habitual patterns of behaviour reinforce a certain, negative self-image, and then what steps could start to improve the self-image. Therapy will entail detailed practical work on how to take those necessary steps in a way which is sufficiently gradual and incremental so as not to evoke resistance.

That term ‘resistance’ is really a reference to the internalised critic in your ‘head’, the nasty, critical ‘voice’ in your mind that runs you down and says you are ‘not good enough’. It’s often quite a mean bully that people carry around on their shoulder or at their back, finding fault with everything they do and all that they are, knocking their confidence and self-worth at every opportunity.

That critical voice is particularly keen on making comparisons, and is always able to find negative comparisons for you to ruminate on and take to heart, diverting your energies away from meeting your own needs.

Cognitive Therapy approach to feelings of low self-confidence or self-belief

Taking a cognitive behavourial approach, the therapy will highlight the messages your self-critic gives you: negative assumptions and ideas which you may have been thinking for a long time. Then the things you say to yourself that are damaging to your self-belief can start to be replaced with more measured, realistic and positive thoughts.

In therapy, time is taken to differentiate those areas in which you seem to operate with low self-esteem, and others in which perhaps you are more self-confident. For example, it is quite common to live unconfidently in the social and personal sphere, but to have a confident, even assertive, persona when at work. That kind of differentiation is important to an understanding of who you are and how you can develop yourself from here on, whatever your age or situation in life.

The therapist may work with your dreams, because it is sometimes in dreams that the first ‘green shoots’ of improved self-confidence appear. The manifestations of low self-esteem, poor self-belief and low self-confidence in the body are also an important area of therapeutic, healing work.

Validation is a basic human need. You deserve to live with pride and dignity. Marcus uses his wide-ranging experience and different skills and techniques to help you to change the direction of your life through valuing yourself, so that you grow more empowered, satisfied in life and self-confident.

Take the first steps towards a greater confidence and self-worth

To begin to truly value yourself contact Marcus to talk about Therapy for low Self-Confidence.

 

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Resources and articles on Self-Esteem, Self Confidence and Self-Worth

J K Rowling | In this Youtube video J K Rowling (author) describes her take on self confidence

Imposter Syndrome & Millennials | A recent Independent article looks at the rise in ‘Imposter Syndrome’ within the Millennials generation

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Pesso Boyden Group with accredited practitioners Deborah Clarke and Marcus Gottlieb

Pesso Boyden Group with accredited PBSP practitioners Deborah Clarke and Marcus Gottlieb

Pesso Boyden Therapy (‘PBSP’) is a philosophical process for becoming whole.

It is a respectful, interactive group process that heals by embedding new memories in the brain and in the body

Most people consciously or unconsciously have memories – explicit or implicit – of 

1. deficits 

2. traumas 

3. having to take care of others when we were too young – e.g. protecting a sibling, providing the joy in the life of an unhappy parent, unconsciously becoming the ‘spouse’ of a widowed parent, or making the world right after hearing stories of injustice. 

When any of these three categories of memory appear in the client’s work, the client and therapist work together to externalise them, in order to illuminate the client’s ways of handling life and to facilitate change. The client is always in charge of this process – people and incidents from the client’s past will be symbolised in the here-and-now either by people in the group or by objects in the room, all chosen and placed by the client. 

The therapist then works with the client to facilitate an antidote to what happened in the past – a new memory which provides what the client needed at that particular time in their past, from a specific kinship figure. This new memory may be developed over several sessions in a number of steps. In the Pesso approach we don’t change our history; however, we do change our response to our history, leading to a new perspective. 

The way is opened to possibilities of greater pleasure, satisfaction, meaning, integration and connectedness.

 



Deborah has worked as a Performance Coach for over 16 years having trained with Coach U. Her background is in the arts as an actor, theatre director and artistic director. She has worked with a wide range of people from all walks of life. Having first encountered Pesso Boyden as a client, she felt inspired to do the training herself. Since graduating in 2013 she has been running Personal Development workshops using the Pesso Boyden system and is now accredited by the official PBSP U.K. organisation.

Notting Hill Therapist | Marcus Gottlieb Psychotherapist & Counsellor
Marcus Gottlieb is a highly experienced London-based psychotherapist with a particular interest in boarding school survivor syndrome. Having trained alongside Deborah directly under Al Pesso and his closest collaborator Lowijs van Perquin, he is steeped in the work of PBSP and a strong believer in the client’s genetic impulse towards health and expression of their unique potential and individual destiny. He became an accredited Pesso Boyden therapist in 2021.
An Introduction to the Pesso Boyden Method

 

An opportunity to learn about and observe the distinctive techniques of this respectful body-based psychotherapy.

Suitable for both psychologically interested professionals, people seeking personal development/CPD and for people not in the therapeutic professions seeking to address entrenched issues. For all those who are interested in living a larger life. A special price of £35 for the day includes lunch and refreshments. CPD certificates will be available.

PBSP (Pesso-Boyden System Psychomotor) is a powerful, deeply respectful, psychotherapeutic process that uses feedback, ritual, objects and role players in a unique manner to heal the traumas, wounds and losses that affect our personal map of the world.

Its central goal is the imaginative creation of an ‘ideal’ healthy past that a person’s brain processes so that they emerge feeling differently about themselves. As Albert Pesso said, ‘Humanity is responsible for the meaning that surrounds us. The task for each person is to create a meaningful life and then live it with existential courage and passion.’

As well as gaining new perspectives, clients often experience increased pleasure, satisfaction, meaning and connectedness following a PBSP session and find themselves psychologically freer to make the changes they wish for in their lives.
Date: Saturday 7 October 2017
Venue: Notting Hill, London W11
Time: 10.00 am – 4.30 pm
Cost: £35 (inc lunch & refreshments)

 

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Boarding School Survivor Syndrome Conference

BOARDING SCHOOL: Surviving the Syndrome
Broken Attachment and Childhood Trauma

University of Brighton

Saturday 9 September 2017
9.30 am to 5.00 pm

Conference for psychotherapists, counsellors, mental health workers, boarding school survivors and other interested people.

Conference overall aims are to:
§ Present key aspects of what has been published about the psychological and other effects of boarding.
§ Explore helpful therapeutic approaches for clients who are former boarders.
§ Consider current research and a possible agenda for future research
§ Enable networking amongst those interested in this important topic

Chair: Pam Howard, School of Applied Social Science, University of Brighton.

Speakers: Nick Duffell, Joy Schaverien, Alex Renton, Thurstine Basset, Anni Townend, Olya Khaleelee.

Group Discussion Facilitators: Marcus Gottlieb, Leslie Lund, Nicola Miller, Simon Partridge, Boarding Concern Directors.

For more details, contact Laura Williams:
southcoastevents@brighton.ac.uk

Pesso Boyden Workshop with Ana María Ruiz Sancho and Marcus Gottlieb

 

Pesso Boyden Therapy is a respectful and highly respected, body-based psychotherapy with distinctive techniques aimed at addressing entrenched issues. It is an interactive process that creates new body-based memories to heal emotional deficits of the past.

An exceptionally powerful personal development tool, it uses feedback, systematic procedures, objects and role players in a unique methodology, in order to repair the early traumas, wounds and losses that can powerfully influence the brain’s map of the world.

In shifting underlying perspectives, the way is opened to the possibility of greater pleasure, satisfaction, meaning and connectedness, and an enhanced freedom to effect longed-for changes.

It is expected there will be between 8 and 12 participants, with an absolute maximum of 15. The day will start with an explanation of Pesso Boyden and an experiential introduction, followed by 4 actual client sessions of an hour each.

Venue: Philadelphia Association, 4 Marty’s Yard, London NW3 1QW
Date: Saturday 3 June 2017
Time: 0930 to 1800
Cost: £75

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Ana María Ruiz Sancho is an experienced psychiatrist and a psychotherapist. She is also a specialist in group dynamics and an Institutional and Team Motivation Consultant.

Ana is the Founder and a Director of VocAcción, as well as being a qualified Pesso Boyden psychotherapist.


Notting Hill Therapist | Marcus Gottlieb Psychotherapist & Counsellor

Marcus Gottlieb works with relationships, sexuality, abuse and trauma, with a particular interest in boarding school survivor syndrome. Qualified in Pesso Boyden as well as other psychotherapies, he is also an Alexander Technique teacher.

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