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Counselling for Anger Issues & Therapy for Anger Management

If you have trouble controlling your anger, rage or violent thoughts then Anger Management Therapy with Marcus can help

Anger is a completely normal and healthy emotion but, when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems at work, at home, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life.

Violent or uncontrolled anger or rage can make you feel as though you are at the mercy of an unpredictable, powerful and even frightening force – as well as potentially being alarming or distressing for anyone receiving or witnessing your anger.

Anger Management Therapy seeks to explore the emotional reactions you have to certain situations and help you to regulate and modulate your response in a way that will help you get a more positive and constructive result.

Do I need Anger Management Therapy – What are the signs of an anger issue?

Anger is part of the normal range of human emotions. It is a response to a need that is seeking to be met, a need to change or restructure a situation that you do not like or that you find unbearable.

There will always be events that cause anger and sometimes anger will be a justifiable response. Life is frustrating at times; it involves pain, loss, disappointment and the unpredictable actions of others.

However sometimes, no doubt, your emotional responses are out of proportion to the actual situation.

“I have yet to see a serious act of violence that was not provoked by the experience of feeling shamed and humiliated, disrespected and ridiculed, and that did not represent the attempt to prevent or undo this loss of face.” Anonymous prison psychiatrist

Some typical signs of having an ‘anger issue’ are:

  • Punching objects in frustration
  • Lashing out
  • Flying off the handle, violent outbursts, losing it, losing your rag
  • Reacting quickly and violently to small or insignificant problems
  • Picking arguments
  • Being very accusatory towards those close to you
  • Finding it difficult to climb down from an argument
  • Consistently having the same argument
  • Feeling frustrated with your actions and reactions to situations
  • Anxiety and paranoia
  • Lack of sleep
  • Social isolation

Symptoms of uncontrolled rage and how counselling can help you manage your anger

For many people, expressing anger, especially in a ferocious outburst, is followed by painful remorse, guilt and shame. It can even turn into depression.

Many people have difficulties with anger, whether it means having too much anger or too little.

You may be a person who implodes with your anger, internalizing your rage, perhaps showing no outwardly discernible signs of anger – you may, instead, experience other states such as depression, detachment or anxiety.

Other people explode with fury, criticising, arguing and even becoming verbally or physically violent – externalising all of what they feel.

There are gender differences in how anger is experienced and expressed. Often, though not always, it’s women who implode and men who explode.

Why do I get so Angry?

Through expressing anger you are at some level attempting to generate a pseudo-strength, which is an illusion of control over our world.

Whether you manifest anger by withdrawing, distancing, or becoming teary eyed, passive-aggressive or critical, or by being violent and destructive, there are consequences. You will probably be aware that your outbursts can have very negative consequences.

Your anger can have a profound effect on those around you, which makes their lives less satisfying and enjoyable and damages the relationship you have with them. Anger that’s not well handled can limit the possibility of you enjoying truly intimate and rewarding connections with people.

Some of the possible responses of other people to your anger:

  • Walking on eggshells around you
  • Watching their words and censoring how they speak to you
  • Being on tenterhooks around you
  • Avoiding the discussion of ‘delicate’ subjects with you

What happens in Anger Management Therapy?

Anger management therapy can teach constructive and appropriate ways of experiencing, expressing and meeting anger.

In counselling for anger you can practise ways to handle the unexpressed, underlying experiences that anger often masks. Anger is often the top layer of emotion, while it is the deeper layering – the vulnerability underneath – that is in a way more interesting and real.

Managing anger with Behavioural Therapy by changing your response or reaction to situations

It is possible to disassemble your habitual reactions to people, events and situations, and transform the passion and energy of anger into alternative responses. When you learn to do this you will be better able to communicate your inner experience in a satisfying way, which is key to any kind of relationship.

Marcus has available a toolkit of anger management counselling techniques which are essentially cognitive and behavioural therapy approaches, including anger rituals and other responsible forms of expression, somatic exercises, visualisation, drawing and role playing.

Counselling for Anger Issues & Therapy for Anger Management

If you worry that you have Anger Issues and want to change how you respond to situations and to those around you, then take the first step and contact Marcus to discuss Therapy for Anger Management.

 

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Some helpful articles & web pages on Anger & Anger Management

Videos that offer support and advice:

Helpful ways to ‘Calm Down’

Innovative treatment for underlying trauma

Stress Response: Fight or Flight

Film: Antwone Fisher (2002) is about a young sailor ordered to see Navy psychiatrist, Denzel Washington, to help control his debilitating anger. To find out more and see a trailer for this film follow this link

 

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Pesso Boyden Group with accredited practitioners Deborah Clarke and Marcus Gottlieb

Pesso Boyden Group with accredited PBSP practitioners Deborah Clarke and Marcus Gottlieb

Pesso Boyden Therapy (‘PBSP’) is a philosophical process for becoming whole.

It is a respectful, interactive group process that heals by embedding new memories in the brain and in the body

Most people consciously or unconsciously have memories – explicit or implicit – of 

1. deficits 

2. traumas 

3. having to take care of others when we were too young – e.g. protecting a sibling, providing the joy in the life of an unhappy parent, unconsciously becoming the ‘spouse’ of a widowed parent, or making the world right after hearing stories of injustice. 

When any of these three categories of memory appear in the client’s work, the client and therapist work together to externalise them, in order to illuminate the client’s ways of handling life and to facilitate change. The client is always in charge of this process – people and incidents from the client’s past will be symbolised in the here-and-now either by people in the group or by objects in the room, all chosen and placed by the client. 

The therapist then works with the client to facilitate an antidote to what happened in the past – a new memory which provides what the client needed at that particular time in their past, from a specific kinship figure. This new memory may be developed over several sessions in a number of steps. In the Pesso approach we don’t change our history; however, we do change our response to our history, leading to a new perspective. 

The way is opened to possibilities of greater pleasure, satisfaction, meaning, integration and connectedness.

 



Deborah has worked as a Performance Coach for over 16 years having trained with Coach U. Her background is in the arts as an actor, theatre director and artistic director. She has worked with a wide range of people from all walks of life. Having first encountered Pesso Boyden as a client, she felt inspired to do the training herself. Since graduating in 2013 she has been running Personal Development workshops using the Pesso Boyden system and is now accredited by the official PBSP U.K. organisation.

Notting Hill Therapist | Marcus Gottlieb Psychotherapist & Counsellor
Marcus Gottlieb is a highly experienced London-based psychotherapist with a particular interest in boarding school survivor syndrome. Having trained alongside Deborah directly under Al Pesso and his closest collaborator Lowijs van Perquin, he is steeped in the work of PBSP and a strong believer in the client’s genetic impulse towards health and expression of their unique potential and individual destiny. He became an accredited Pesso Boyden therapist in 2021.
An Introduction to the Pesso Boyden Method

 

An opportunity to learn about and observe the distinctive techniques of this respectful body-based psychotherapy.

Suitable for both psychologically interested professionals, people seeking personal development/CPD and for people not in the therapeutic professions seeking to address entrenched issues. For all those who are interested in living a larger life. A special price of £35 for the day includes lunch and refreshments. CPD certificates will be available.

PBSP (Pesso-Boyden System Psychomotor) is a powerful, deeply respectful, psychotherapeutic process that uses feedback, ritual, objects and role players in a unique manner to heal the traumas, wounds and losses that affect our personal map of the world.

Its central goal is the imaginative creation of an ‘ideal’ healthy past that a person’s brain processes so that they emerge feeling differently about themselves. As Albert Pesso said, ‘Humanity is responsible for the meaning that surrounds us. The task for each person is to create a meaningful life and then live it with existential courage and passion.’

As well as gaining new perspectives, clients often experience increased pleasure, satisfaction, meaning and connectedness following a PBSP session and find themselves psychologically freer to make the changes they wish for in their lives.
Date: Saturday 7 October 2017
Venue: Notting Hill, London W11
Time: 10.00 am – 4.30 pm
Cost: £35 (inc lunch & refreshments)

 

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Boarding School Survivor Syndrome Conference

BOARDING SCHOOL: Surviving the Syndrome
Broken Attachment and Childhood Trauma

University of Brighton

Saturday 9 September 2017
9.30 am to 5.00 pm

Conference for psychotherapists, counsellors, mental health workers, boarding school survivors and other interested people.

Conference overall aims are to:
§ Present key aspects of what has been published about the psychological and other effects of boarding.
§ Explore helpful therapeutic approaches for clients who are former boarders.
§ Consider current research and a possible agenda for future research
§ Enable networking amongst those interested in this important topic

Chair: Pam Howard, School of Applied Social Science, University of Brighton.

Speakers: Nick Duffell, Joy Schaverien, Alex Renton, Thurstine Basset, Anni Townend, Olya Khaleelee.

Group Discussion Facilitators: Marcus Gottlieb, Leslie Lund, Nicola Miller, Simon Partridge, Boarding Concern Directors.

For more details, contact Laura Williams:
southcoastevents@brighton.ac.uk

Pesso Boyden Workshop with Ana María Ruiz Sancho and Marcus Gottlieb

 

Pesso Boyden Therapy is a respectful and highly respected, body-based psychotherapy with distinctive techniques aimed at addressing entrenched issues. It is an interactive process that creates new body-based memories to heal emotional deficits of the past.

An exceptionally powerful personal development tool, it uses feedback, systematic procedures, objects and role players in a unique methodology, in order to repair the early traumas, wounds and losses that can powerfully influence the brain’s map of the world.

In shifting underlying perspectives, the way is opened to the possibility of greater pleasure, satisfaction, meaning and connectedness, and an enhanced freedom to effect longed-for changes.

It is expected there will be between 8 and 12 participants, with an absolute maximum of 15. The day will start with an explanation of Pesso Boyden and an experiential introduction, followed by 4 actual client sessions of an hour each.

Venue: Philadelphia Association, 4 Marty’s Yard, London NW3 1QW
Date: Saturday 3 June 2017
Time: 0930 to 1800
Cost: £75

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Ana María Ruiz Sancho is an experienced psychiatrist and a psychotherapist. She is also a specialist in group dynamics and an Institutional and Team Motivation Consultant.

Ana is the Founder and a Director of VocAcción, as well as being a qualified Pesso Boyden psychotherapist.


Notting Hill Therapist | Marcus Gottlieb Psychotherapist & Counsellor

Marcus Gottlieb works with relationships, sexuality, abuse and trauma, with a particular interest in boarding school survivor syndrome. Qualified in Pesso Boyden as well as other psychotherapies, he is also an Alexander Technique teacher.

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